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Teens Week!


Discrimination
We have indeed come a long way from the days of slave trade. But apparently, discrimination and inequality still saturates our society in modern ways. In this little piece, I’m going to discuss a unique and unpopular form in which discrimination occurs.
While awareness has been created against racism, sexism and other forms of discrimination, thick people are being constantly subjected to prejudice and the issue has remained unaddressed.

Being overweight already creates stigma in the mind of a person. Apparently, he or she is less likely to secure the best jobs or get to achieve all of their big dreams due to no other reason but their large size.
In social terms, they are less regarded and are subjected to derogatory humour and disparaging and belittling comments from peers, colleagues, friends and even family members.
Why all this hostility and lack of compassion towards fat people? Why this apparent urge on the part of many to blame and shame people who are already deemed to carry too much flesh? With all these questions lingering on my mind, I have come to a conclusion that it is as a result of the lack of awareness and information on the negative impact of making someone a subject of ridicule because of his or her size.
It is impossible to see how another person sees or feel how someone else does. You call someone fat and you and others laugh about it, while the victim who’s also a human just like you is left with the feeling of shame and disdain. They consider themselves unworthy and ugly like some sort of animal.
I think it’s high time we put an end to this social discrimination, I think it’s high time everyone felt proud enough to appreciate their stature and body. I think it’s long overdue that everyone, overweight or not could have a right to freedom from discrimination, humour and mockery.
You are fat, yes! Rather than constantly feeling bad about yourself, you should stand up and realise that no one else is perfect. Self discovery follows closely. Determine what you’re good at and be proud of it, because that is the first step to becoming proud of yourself.

The next time you look in the mirror, do not only see the large body or hands or face, but also see someone who is beautiful because everyone has the right to be beautiful.
Written by;

Nwanza Winnifred,a medical student in the prestigious university of Lagos who has a tremendous passion for writing.

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Teens Week!


LONELINESS

Have you ever been surrounded by many people, and yet felt so lonely, almost like you are in a dungeon or a tower with no stairs like Rapunzel the princess? Or have you ever been alone and yet so full of joy like you’re in the company of your closest friends? I have been in both situations, and of course, the latter was preferable. Yet, I discovered that the difference in both situations was solely based on me.


In every human, there is a need for relationship. The human has been designed in such a way that he should not be alone. Even God admitted in the Bible, back in the Garden of Eden that, ‘It is not good for man to be alone…’ and so he created the woman as a companion for the man.

I spend most of my days alone, but I do not feel lonely. This is because I have grown to see that though it might seem like I am alone, I actually am not, and so I cannot feel lonely. Aremo Olalekan rightly said, ‘You might not be able to control the actions of others towards you, but you can control how you react to their actions.’ This has proved true for me in many aspects of my life. Life is all about your perspective – how you choose to see things.

If you feel lonely because you are usually alone, then you should know that as Christians, the Bible teaches us that we have the Spirit of God living within us and He is here to stay forever with us. So for one, we know that we really are not alone. You can talk to God as often as you want, He is always listening. Also, the joy that He produces in our spirits helps us to overcome any feelings of sadness or loneliness.

And if you feel lonely because perhaps, you are suffering from neglect from people you really love like parents, siblings or friends; then you need to first realize that God loves you more than you could ever comprehend, and He will never leave nor forsake you. Having knowledge of this alone is enough to save you a whole lot of stress, but after that, you need to talk to these people and let them know how you feel. Communication and understanding can bridge the gap that you feel now exists between you. If you don’t tell them, they might not know. 

Then take time to be a blessing to others around you. Take your mind off you and all the things that you feel you need. Do more for God, volunteer to take on more tasks for Him. Find joy in helping others and in time, you will get over this feeling of sadness and loneliness.

Loneliness is very harmful because it leads to depression, which is no respecter of age. It is just as harmful as it is to an adult as it is to a teenager. God loves you, dear. Never forget that.

Please reach out to me if you need someone to talk to here. 

Written by:

Jane Kareem,a young Christian writer and graphic designer. She studied Science Laboratory Technology at Yaba College of Technology, Yaba, Lagos. She is an ardent lover of rice and believes that knowledge of God’s love will change a person’s life.
You can reach her:

Facebook;Jane Kareem.

Email;jhaynekareem@gmail.com

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Teens Week!

To any one feeling the way I felt, that voice that says:

*You don’t belong here*

*You don’t look like us*

*You can’t fit*

*You are not on the same level with us*

*No! You can’t join us,we are a clique*

*You have to look this way to be friends with us*

   If that is the voice you hear everytime you try to associate with people. You have to speak back to that voice saying:

*I can’t be like you because Christ made me to stand out*

*I am worth a whooping price which is the blood of Jesus*

*I look like Christ because I am his child and He called me his own*

*I might not belong here but I belong on high in heavely places sitted with Christ*

*And Christ loves me just the way I am but I won’t remain that way because He is working on me*

*Men naturally will try to point out certain characteristics,certain flaws, certain attributes that makes them better than you to put you down.

 You are a chosen generation!!!!!

You shouldn’t fall to discrimination.

Written by:

Oluwabunmi a graduate of kwara state university, Bible study teacher, a writer, poet, an advocate for purity and Godly relationship.

She also has a passion for building girls into women.

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Teens Week!

I promise to read till the end. 

If you read that first line,  even if it is in your mind,  I hold you bound by your promise. Keep it! I trust you will.  Sexual purity is at the top of the list when it comes to the most talked about topic the older generation tell we, the younger ones. If you’re like me,  sometimes I get tired of it. It’s the same thing said over and over again and by now,  you think we will all have learnt,  but no. That’s not the case we see. You see,  knowledge, they say, is the cure for ignorance. The older generation are trying to save us from wallowing in the sea of ignorance,  hence, the constant reminder. Like I said before, sometimes,  I get tired of hearing about sexual purity but,  I do not in any way think less of it in itself. 

Sexual purity is wonderful! Before I proceed, you just might be one of the very few teenagers that has not heard a thing about sexual purity. Let me tell you what it is. If you are expecting a Wikipedia copy and paste definition,  I am sorry but not sorry to disappoint you. Since it me writing this and I want you to view sexual purity through my eyes,  I am obliged to give you my original definition. 

Sexual Purity is a state of being pure sexually. *shakes head* my English teacher will be disappointed with that definition. I will do better next time Sir. Back to the main gist. Sexual purity goes beyond restraining from the main act of sexual intercourse itself. It involves restraining from the orisirisi acts that goes with it too. 

What you will not do physically, do not do in your mind. It sounds very similar to this saying which goes thus ‘what you will not eat, do not smell’. 

That’s it! Purity is a virtue! It does not fall from heaven on any one. It takes deliberate effort. Sounds like stress? What’s the point? Here’s the point. I believe the word of God and I do what God’s word says. God says to keep the marriage bed undefiled and so, that’s what I’ll do. If He says my body is His temple,  I’ll treat it as such. That is what bind me. God will never ask us to do that which is not good for us and that is why on a cultural and science basis, sexual purity still rocks. It does not matter if no one is in on it.  ‘A’ is still the first letter of the English Alphabet regardless of whether everyone is saying ‘B’. What is right does not change from being right whether I agree with it or you do. 

Okay,  so,  maybe you do not belong in the category of the ‘untouched’ and you’re wondering what is left for you. Do you put your hands in fire,  mistakenly or not, and then say since it is there already,  you leave it that way? No,  you won’t. Make a decision,  stand your ground, move away from the things or people that encourage such, surround yourself with strong people and become accountable to a trusted person. 

Believe me, there are still sexually pure teenagers in this world. Yes,  they have had situations where they had to choose. No, they are not dumb. Yes,  they are enjoying life. The media does not make it easy for us and I’m not promising that it will be but I tell you,  it is worth it. You deserve it. 

Another confession awaits you. It’s not a promise this time. I am really happy you read it to this point. You make a very ‘fine’ person.

Here it is, 

I choose to make right decisions

I choose to do right

I choose to remain/become sexually pure. 

I love you. (Thanks for telling me that. I feel the love from your side).


Written by:

Boluwatife Ishola a girl in her late teenage year. She is a student of Microbiology in the prestigious Obafemi Awolowo University. She loves God with the whole of her and value relationships. She always has a word of encouragement on her lips and she enjoys writing as she finds expression in it. She blogs at http://www.isholaboluwatife.wordpress.com

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Teens Week!

He said I was a ‘bit of fluff ‘
So he decided to do it his way.

The words hit me hard,
I could choose not to recover,I wouldn’t be blamed.

I needed a bit of fresh air,
So I decided to take a walk
But even then,
It still stared at me,walking with me all the way.
It seemed to love me,I just didn’t enjoy it.
How would I be free from it’s grip
It wants me dead,maybe buried
Yes that’s the kind of love.
The one that offers me a ‘dog life’
Not the kind of life I’d like
If I speak up,who will listen?
Does it really matter,
If I live or die?
Of what use am I afterall,
They already said ‘I’d be better off dead’
Plus buried,6*6 feet down
I agree,but there should be a way out.

He did it his way,he had his way…only for the moment.
The words hit me hard,I needed a bit of fresh air in a vaccum of no help.
I’ve been Abused,
But I’ll speak up,i’ll let it go…
I’ll clear the air myself and make my life worth living.

A-B-U-S-E,
You’re strong,strong enough to put me down..but i’m stronger,at least enough to not stay down.

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​Self-Esteem and Inferiority Complex.

Self-esteem is your self-worth; what you think about yourself; how confident you are in yourself and everything that pertains to you, including your decisions. Inferiority complex on the other hand is the feeling that you are inferior or of lower quality compared to others.  
 Interestingly, these two terms can be linked. You will only feel inferior or of lower quality to others when you have a low self-esteem, i.e. you are less confident about yourself.
Confidence is like a fragrance we carry, or maybe a kind of ornament; it is a positive feeling; it is how you express yourself when you’re certain of something; it is how you trust yourself or others or something and you say it with all assurance. Confidence speaks a lot about you.  

However, it’s sad that a lot of people lack confidence in their own selves. I believe before you can deal with low self-esteem and inferiority complex, you need to know your own self-worth, how much you trust and believe in yourself, and the awesomeness that you are.
Knowing these things about yourself and feeling good about it will only stem from you building yourself. You really won’t want to stand up in a crowd and say something that explains clearly how daft you are. The reactions afterward can water you down, or not, depending on your personality. Now, while standing in a crowd to speak is a brave attempt, will you say something that will eventually match the bravery? While sharing your opinions on social media is something interesting, do you make sensible posts or you just end up embarrassing yourself by displaying ignorance?
It is important that you start from yourself first. Build yourself. Read books and interesting articles online and offline. Be sure of the words you want to spill. Learn courtesy. Learn how to respond to situations. When you tackle all these, you will have very little to deal with about self-esteem and inferiority complex. 
Take for example, I’m in a gathering where the anchor asks, ‘who can tell me what a table looks like and its functions?’. I know what a table looks like and I’m very certain. If I don’t get up to talk, it is probably because I’m shy (which is another topic entirely), but certainly not because I’m not confident of the answer. You can see clearly how we just ruled out a bit of low self-esteem, by knowledge. The issue now could be the inferiority complex; you may feel someone will say something better, because don’t see yourself better than the person, probably because of past failed records in school or generally. While this is understandable, it still falls back to building yourself and knowing that you may sometimes fail, but it can also be an avenue to learn something new. So, you shouldn’t feel bad if someone says something better, because it simply means the person knows it better and you don’t and you’re willing to learn. 
Let’s halt on that section and move on to other areas when self-esteem and inferiority complex affect. 

I’ll ask you some core questions: 


Do you feel glued to your seat, in a high-class gathering, because of what you’re wearing?

Do you admire people on social media to the extent that you feel they are better than you, with a bliss life?

Do you constantly remind yourself to be quiet amidst friends/colleagues because they might shun you if you say something? 
One of the many things I’ve learnt to deal with over the years is the confidence I have in myself; how I trust my own decisions, because I believe I must have given a thorough thought before arriving at that decision. I have learnt how to be confident in whatever I wear, because my choice of dressing stemmed from a decision I made. Gone are the days where I remained glued to my seat because I felt everyone else looked better. 

      I may not buy the most expensive wears like others, but I’ve learnt to appreciate whatever I have and feel good in them. To an extent, you define what others see you as. If you think you’re inferior, they’ll see you as one. So, get up and walk majestically like one who trusts his/her decisions.
About social media, let me quickly remind you that whatever you see on the internet is filtered. Now, I’m not talking about just pictures, I’m talking about everything. We filter the good from the bad and choose to put up what others should see. You will hardly see a poor grammar on a highly rated blog or some common flaws. Why? It is simply because they go through their posts thoroughly before posting, so what you see is just perfect. 

Same thing applies to what you see on social media. The tweets, Facebook posts, and stunning pictures are filtered. You only see what they choose to show you. The person you think is perfect and has it all has probably not been feeding well due to financial challenges, but you may never see that part of them. This doesn’t mean they are fake, they are simply filtering what they put out there.

So, gather yourself and get it straight that we all have our battles. Some of these lives may be as bliss as painted on the media, but you also need to understand how life is in levels. 
Don’t let that girl, who posted her graduating pictures from the college when she was only 20, make you feel worthless because you are 23 and still in your 2nd year. Life is in stages and on different levels, both online and offline. If you’ve never travelled out of the country but someone on your social media timeline talks about visiting 2 countries in a month, don’t let it get to you. Focus on other things in your life, like building yourself to become a successful person. 
If you have a low self-esteem or you always feel inferior to others, I need you to know that you can be better. You are unique in your own way, and exactly why you must work on it and rise against all odds.
Comparison is the only reason you feel inferior. Try not to engage in some unhealthy comparisons that will affect you. Stand out!

Written by:

Oluwatosin Faith Kolawole.

A young lady who is conscious about her daily growth. She’s a Teen Coach and the Director of teensmeetonline.com

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Teens Week!


ABUSE

Cold, Broken

What is more to tell?

Nobody seems to have worries

Save me holding onto my bag of memories

Memories of the liveliness I once had

Memories of my innocence forcefully claimed

Memories of being hit and silenced even before uttering ‘ah’

The words;I understand, is more of a compliment lacking tone of sincerity 

So tell me, what is there to share?
In Various forms can it occur,

But that doesn’t change the letters from usual

That which connects it all is same;

Pain, Hurt, Depression, Withdrawal to self and lots more

The wet pillows when the Sun has gone to sleep can attest to its existence

The fear that creeps into the heart can bear witness

5 letters

Abstract, yet existing

A-B-U-S-E! 


The heap of worries remain

The eyebags of tears unshed

Thoughts of not being loved and not even seeking to be loved appear

The dreadful one is;wanting to be gone forever which ought not be

Abuse!

We know you exist,

In our little way,

We will make you crawl and run

And soon,I believe,the little bit left of you will vanish

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There are so many stories to share on ABUSE but the memories are not worth holding onto. It sounds so easy,yet it is so hard,right?

This Teen-age is just a phase,my dear, and You need to know that NOW determines TOMORROW.

Let the past dwell with ‘Yesterday’ and make Today result into a purpose-fulfilling Tomorrow.

You only live once(Y.O.L.O),remember? Make your living worth it.


Written by:Oluwatimilehin Atere

A Law undergraduate of the prestigious Obafemi Awolowo University,Ile-Ife. She has a great flair for writing and an inclination to speaking.

For her leisure, she chooses to blog at teemiewrites.wordpress.com